Is it possible to fall out of love for no reason

Keeping quiet says a lot! If you are not resolving any problems, challenges or conflicts, your communication is probably ineffective and even destructive.

This leads to increased frustration and your relationship needs not being met. If this becomes a pattern, not surprisingly it can create emotional distance that can eventually lead to the end of the relationship. This allows for the relationship to adjust to the changing needs of each partner. The more adaptive the partners or the relationship, the better the chances for survival.

The chances are great that you still feel frustrated and concerned, as you probably tried very hard, but are still using the ineffective strategies that got your relationship in this position.

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All therapists work on a part-time basis with appointments available mornings and after hours. I decided to open the door, and when I did, I lost all interest in the wonderful boyfriend. Because the feelings for the ex were still there and still very much alive. So I chose to pursue them instead. People always want to know the way you feel. Hell, I am always trying to get my men to talk to me about their feelings.

They might not fully understand it themselves. Not everyone is going to be in-tune with their emotions. Not everyone needs to voice their feelings or emotions in order to properly feel them.

Feelings are confusing. So putting them into words can sometimes be an impossible undertaking. Just let yourself feel, and try not to get too tied up in the logistics of figuring out the what you feel and the why you feel it. Study it, sit with it for a while.

Allow it to fill you up. And then if you feel like explaining yourself to someone, okay. Your feelings are your own. Open a dialogue with your partner about it, if you feel comfortable. Honesty and vulnerability can go a long way. It might salvage the relationship and it might afford you the opportunity to work through your feelings together. Sign in. Felicia C.

Megan Boley Follow. I Love You Relationships now. Love Dating Relationships Self Life. Copywriter and author definitelyfine. I Love You Follow. Written by Megan Boley Follow. More From Medium. He still has pictures of us together. Plus, he said he wants to see me and hopefully we can have coffee when he gets back.

I was just hoping to get more insight from other people who may have experienced this. I also know that it is possible that distance is the sole reason for this. Two years ago I met a man who became my best friend for over a year.

He was there for me in every way, and we slowly became inseperable. People would even joke they would come to our wedding, before we had even considered dating.

Soon, for the first time, I felt I had met the love of my life. Not only was it electric and incredible, he also challenged me and confronted me in ways I needed. It was hard work and very rewarding. It felt like a relationship I could grow in and really learn about myself and him. Then in December, a week after our lovely one year anniversary, it was like an emotional shutter came down. I tried to look at pictures of him to remind myself how I felt, because I had absolutely, completely forgotten how I had loved him.

I felt nothing. It was horrifying. I tried so much. I tried casual time away from him, I spent weekends with him, I went on dates with him. Like people have said above, when I have been with him I have felt that love sometimes come back, sometimes intensely, sometimes briefly. Sometimes I wanted space, sometimes I felt so keen to see him. Like obsessive analysing behaviour. But overall I thought things were really improving. Just so I can stop this anxious spiral of analysis going through my mind; I just had to own that the love I once had still was not there.

It has been helpful to have the space. I have started seeing a counsellor for help in this as I believe this is deeply psychological. Perhaps being away from him has made this worse? I had certain reservations about that boyfriend, and so when it ended I let it happen, but still it was a similar thing. Not clear as to why, but you should. I hope this is not a continuing issue for anyone else above. This has absolutely decimated my home life, career, sleep and confidence. At the very least I have to hope that with the help of my counsellor I can get to the root of this, as it feels like nothing stops this happening again to the next potential partner.

Any and all advice is greatly appreciated. I thought I was going mad. I love my boyfriend so much and he means the world to me the thought of loosing him terrifies me. I met him at work and he asked me out it took me awhile to fully like him, but I did. We had good sexual and dating time.

I would think of future with him. I would think of our kids. It would make me cry but I knew he love me and I would tell him and everything would be fine. You must be logged in to reply to this topic. Please log in OR register. This site is not intended to provide and does not constitute medical, legal, or other professional advice. The content on Tiny Buddha is designed to support, not replace, medical or psychiatric treatment. Please seek professional care if you believe you may have a condition.

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